Does Age qualify to be a parameter of one's maturity?
On first instance you may say yes,but if you take out a free moment out of the super busy life and ponder over this question then you would also recollect several instances out of the book of your own life which proved that there is no correlation between age and maturity. There are several times which actually lead you to think is this person really grown up enough to be called a particular age. Several cases that we come across in college, workplace, home and all around us. There would be aunties- who would not think twice before spending more than the per capita income of the nation on their one trip to parlour- who would be haggling over the petty sum with the autowallahs...
Another point which may or may not seem interconnected is Expectations. Now the biggest qs is how much should you expect outta other people and the level to which you should go to fulfill their expectations. There are times when you do some stuff for certain kiths and kins and then expect that they would be there for you when time arises.As the wise men has said that "To be happy in any relationship DO NOT EXPECT" be it any relationship.
BUT the problem arises when someone expects something from you and you try your level best to fulfill that expectation and then somewhere in the deep corner of your heart- being the human that we are; start expecting a return of the same. And if and by some ill luck that expectation is left unquenched then it somewhere loosens the bond.Is the person wrong in expecting back, if nothing else just some concern ??
Somewhere the two which are discussed above are related or interlinked...
I leave you with the question of what happens in General, "Does Maturity come with age and willingness to mature? "
Saturday, November 28, 2009
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
Dil Dosti etc.
Now this is something I have been pondering over for the last 2 years of my life...
FRIENDSHIP the unconditional relationship, the perfect Jai Veeru Jodi, the pakki dosti and the likes...does the utopia still exist???
Hey Hey!!! Don’t jump to any conclusions and brand me as a pessimist or a disbeliever in friendship. I am STILL one of you and would love to believe that true unconditional friendship does exist in this Kaliyug as well. It’s a good feeling that someone there still cares about you – someone who won’t judge you on the basis of your venting out or someone who could understand you without being explicitly told...
But there are some situations you will all agree to...a friend whose expectations you could not fulfill OR some friend who misunderstood your intentions. But the worst case is when a friendship takes a route you never wanted it to take, whether on impulse or on a slight push from some external source. The route treaded by only & only one of them- the route called “little more than friendship”. This is the worst phase of friendship where things take a different turn on the way of life altogether. It is difficult for both the people involved, to get back to the same unadulterated friendship and even more difficult to continue. Breaking a bond which was so dear is not that easy, it pains... and pains badly. But there are times when you can’t help it. The best route forward is when you bring things to an end and probably it’s in the best interest of everyone.
The other painful thing is when an ever-since-we-remember friendship undergoes a transformation. The people who could understand each other so well over all these years and whose examples were quoted when mentioning good friendships. And time has led the people to grow up to be different people. Their choices differ drastically and so does their approach to life. The little things that used to be ignored earlier are now the bone of contention. The little imperfections which were the beauty of life are now the thorns that make the path of the kinship tougher. And AGAIN the best is to part ways...probably again in the mutual interest and peace of mind for both the people.
Parting is again painful and it would remain to be. What matters is the way you part...!
FRIENDSHIP the unconditional relationship, the perfect Jai Veeru Jodi, the pakki dosti and the likes...does the utopia still exist???
Hey Hey!!! Don’t jump to any conclusions and brand me as a pessimist or a disbeliever in friendship. I am STILL one of you and would love to believe that true unconditional friendship does exist in this Kaliyug as well. It’s a good feeling that someone there still cares about you – someone who won’t judge you on the basis of your venting out or someone who could understand you without being explicitly told...
But there are some situations you will all agree to...a friend whose expectations you could not fulfill OR some friend who misunderstood your intentions. But the worst case is when a friendship takes a route you never wanted it to take, whether on impulse or on a slight push from some external source. The route treaded by only & only one of them- the route called “little more than friendship”. This is the worst phase of friendship where things take a different turn on the way of life altogether. It is difficult for both the people involved, to get back to the same unadulterated friendship and even more difficult to continue. Breaking a bond which was so dear is not that easy, it pains... and pains badly. But there are times when you can’t help it. The best route forward is when you bring things to an end and probably it’s in the best interest of everyone.
The other painful thing is when an ever-since-we-remember friendship undergoes a transformation. The people who could understand each other so well over all these years and whose examples were quoted when mentioning good friendships. And time has led the people to grow up to be different people. Their choices differ drastically and so does their approach to life. The little things that used to be ignored earlier are now the bone of contention. The little imperfections which were the beauty of life are now the thorns that make the path of the kinship tougher. And AGAIN the best is to part ways...probably again in the mutual interest and peace of mind for both the people.
Parting is again painful and it would remain to be. What matters is the way you part...!
Friday, November 20, 2009
About Me.
Well I guess its been long since I ever wanted to own a blog of my own..(actually I did...but the one without any posts...) and now when everyone worth their salt has had enuffffff on the blogspace including the dear Mr. Big B to my next door neighbours, I finally get my blog to life.
To begin with I would pick up the perennial question, About Me.
Ever since I got to make my profile on Orkut this question has been there at the very front of everything. Ohhk... I ignored it on the Orkut and the legendaary FB, but it would never let me let go of it. Then came the interviews in Engineering college...(yess, i AM an Engineer) the question raised it head again like the multi-headed snake mentioned in the mythology. Somehow and due to my ICSE-playing-with-words skill I could manage with a okayish one. (Well, I got the job, in case you are free and faaltu enough to be still wondering about it.)
But GOD.....I found myself face to face with the much dreaded question again. The MBA interviews...! "hey, tell me something about yourselves"- the usual favourite starter.
There was no way that my esteemed faculty at the premier MBA entrance coaching institute would have let me ruin their results by spoiling this question. So here arrived the strategy what to and what not to speak/write in your " about me". ( Well , I thought this was supposed to be about me :O ). So I was busy finding the points and headings and sub-headings which I should have spoken about in the interview.
Well..it is another story that I ended up speaking the same idiotic okayish stuff about Myself in both my interviews and still manage to convert both. ( Guess it wasn't that lame ;) )
Coming on to my serious thoughts and the unending philo...
"How much is too much? " the first thought that crawls into my mind when I see this about me section in the social networking sites. Does anyone really care. YES, you can have a really impressive "about me" and manage to attract some attention (one-in-a-thousand chance). But the lack of one never would be noticed. Most of the people wont even care to give a second look beyond the headings (and your photo...esp when its a chick's profile ;) ). If its a stranger then you might write anything and wouldn't matter....you can be the third cousin of SRK or the next Bill Gates (its all up there in your imagination :P). If it is someone who knows you, do you actually think your about me will matter a single tiny winy bit.
So People.... stop thinking about the about me...no one actually cares...!!!!
To begin with I would pick up the perennial question, About Me.
Ever since I got to make my profile on Orkut this question has been there at the very front of everything. Ohhk... I ignored it on the Orkut and the legendaary FB, but it would never let me let go of it. Then came the interviews in Engineering college...(yess, i AM an Engineer) the question raised it head again like the multi-headed snake mentioned in the mythology. Somehow and due to my ICSE-playing-with-words skill I could manage with a okayish one. (Well, I got the job, in case you are free and faaltu enough to be still wondering about it.)
But GOD.....I found myself face to face with the much dreaded question again. The MBA interviews...! "hey, tell me something about yourselves"- the usual favourite starter.
There was no way that my esteemed faculty at the premier MBA entrance coaching institute would have let me ruin their results by spoiling this question. So here arrived the strategy what to and what not to speak/write in your " about me". ( Well , I thought this was supposed to be about me :O ). So I was busy finding the points and headings and sub-headings which I should have spoken about in the interview.
Well..it is another story that I ended up speaking the same idiotic okayish stuff about Myself in both my interviews and still manage to convert both. ( Guess it wasn't that lame ;) )
Coming on to my serious thoughts and the unending philo...
"How much is too much? " the first thought that crawls into my mind when I see this about me section in the social networking sites. Does anyone really care. YES, you can have a really impressive "about me" and manage to attract some attention (one-in-a-thousand chance). But the lack of one never would be noticed. Most of the people wont even care to give a second look beyond the headings (and your photo...esp when its a chick's profile ;) ). If its a stranger then you might write anything and wouldn't matter....you can be the third cousin of SRK or the next Bill Gates (its all up there in your imagination :P). If it is someone who knows you, do you actually think your about me will matter a single tiny winy bit.
So People.... stop thinking about the about me...no one actually cares...!!!!
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